We read an interesting story recently that prompted us to write this post.įor over two years, we have proudly been building this marriage resource for people in every possible situation. Stay tuned for our posts in the weeks ahead which will detail some of the things that worked for us in hopes that it may work for you! One thing is certain: WE ARE BLESSED! And we thank God every day for His phenomenal work in bringing our family close. This would probably be the ultimate in “coming together” when they can fight and yell, and then love each other the next day…or day after that. One thing we did recognize - they haven’t begun to fight with each other yet. Of course, those are just some of the highlights of the more typical sibling interactions. And they now look forward to vacations – TOGETHER!.The stepbrothers wrestling instead of coming to the dinner table.The stepbrothers scheming together to get what they want from the parents.The stepbrother sticking up for his stepsister.The boys ganging up against the one tough girl we have.The stepbrothers sending each other tons of texts when they are apart.Loudness and laughter at the dinner table instead of quiet and forced discussions.With the grace of God, we successfully combined our family in about 2.5 years! Most importantly, we prayed for God to bring our family together. This also is difficult when we only have them 50% of the time.
We parented our children the way we know is right - with rules and boundaries. This is no easy task with the relentless attacks against us. We worked on our marriage so we could love and serve each other better. We hoped for encouragement from our church.īut we kept at it. “The average family takes 5-7 years to combine some take longer,” renowned Stepfamily expert Ron Deal.īelieve it or not, we even had leaders in our church tell us that “there is no such thing as blended families, it never works.” Did those words get us down? You bet they did. When we started this site to share our lives, we referenced what the experts said about blending families. That’s right! We have reported on some pockets of success in the past, but today, we are a solid family unit. After beginning to blend our family together in August of 2017, we can now comfortably and publicly state: MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! The attacks never seem to dissipate, however, we are getting much better at dealing with them. Why? Because our lives have been moving way too fast: work, kids, and the outside attacks on our marriage/family since that began when we first got engaged. It’s been way too long since our readers have heard from us. “A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” - Diane Sawyer
We hope this is helpful to you and look forward to connecting. Please know this – we are EXCITED about our marriage and new blended family and we WANT to help you in yours. What we are is a couple who struggles like everyone else in marriage, remarriage, and in blended families – and we wished there was a resource like this before we got married and as we struggle through our first year. **We are the furthest thing from experts. Hopefully, together, we all help each other. We love each other deeply and we are committed to make it work – as the vows say – for better or worse. Why? Because divorce isn’t an option for us and we don’t want it to be an option for others. We will provide real-time sharing with other remarried couples and blended families. We have chosen to share our journey publicly, to present our challenges and to open ourselves up in an effort to help others. We tried to prepare, but quite honestly, nothing can prepare a remarried couple and blended family until you all go through it together. And on August 27, six people started a new family, living together having never done so before. We have four kids in total (Michael has three and Joya has one). From that point forward nearly every day was a struggle. We had the most magical wedding imaginable on August 26, 2017. The pitfalls were endless and we figured that it simply couldn’t be as bad as the books illustrated.
Most resources out there for couples getting remarried are not what you would call positive. We started reading books in preparation and we immediately got discouraged. Where to start? Well, in short, we were each divorced…about 4 years after our divorces we fell in love…and we decided to get remarried.Īs with most everyone who falls in love we thought it would all work out well because we have so much love for each other and we have God leading the way. Thanks for joining us! This is going to be a very unique blog.
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